Swing History

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Definition (1)

The History and Definitions of Swinging which is couples only

The history of the word “swinging” is that it was previously called wife swapping but “wife swappers” needed an easier name to describe the activity. As “wife swapping” gained popularity and media attention in the 1950’s, the activity was changed to “swinging” and more recently “The Lifestyle”

 So by saying your a single swinger your saying you are a single wife swapper…which doesn’t make a lot of sense.

Swinging has its roots from U.S. Air Force fighter pilots during World War II. These men were wealthy enough to move their wives close to base, and the fact that their fatality rate was the highest of any branch of service led to an unusual social milieu in which non-monogamy between these pilots’ wives and other pilots became acceptable. These arrangements persisted near Air Force bases throughout World War II and into the Korean War.

By the time the Korean War ended, these groups had spread from the bases to the nearby suburbs. The media picked up on them in 1957 and promptly dubbed the phenomenon “wife-swapping.”

Supposedly there were also “key clubs” where husbands reportedly tossed their house keys into a pile in the center of the room where they were drawn at random by the wives. The owner of a selected key was the sexual partner for the evening.

Swinging has always been about couples – Every national swing convention in the U.S., and as far as I know of in the world, is couples only. Today marriage is less important so non-married “couples” have been generally accepted but some swingers prefer only to participate with married couples.

There are zillions of very good reasons why couples prefer couples. There are some single men that participate especially since clubs often have certain nights open to single men which raises lots of money since single men want so badly to participate. Those are the nights most “swingers” avoid, except for a few that do enjoy single men.

Sadly very few single women ever participate so the problem is zillions of single men wannabe’s and very little demand. Some single guys do fine but they are the exception in the lifestyle. Since many women are Bi there is also a demand for single Bi women to participate, but technically whether man or women a single, is really not a “swinger” they just are allowed to participate with “swingers” (couples previously known as “wife swappers”).Another view further back in history of “Swinging”

The term “swinging” was first used by a Minister, who told his congregation there were weird people who were swinging back and forth from bed to bed, in the same manner as monkeys. He seemed to think they were doing something new but he was wrong! Even in Jesus’ time it was common and acceptable behavior for the wealthy to have many wives, concubines and slaves for their sexual pleasure. Several women rulers availed themselves of their power also, by keeping male slaves and consorts to satisfy their sexual needs and desires. What was considered new and weird in our present unenlightened sexually- controlled society has been considered normal and acceptable conduct by even early Christians as well as many other religions, cultures and civilizations in history.

 Africa, Iran Egypt, China and Japan were among many countries that have lived a “swinging” lifestyle for centuries. In France, during Queen Marie’s time; wild orgies were the norm, until she lost her head for being a taker instead of a giver!

In more recent history, many world leaders — even those of the religious community have openly or secretly enjoyed their sexuality while trying to deny others the same rights and opportunities.

Ben Franklin was known to be a nudist, while enjoying his sexuality by “swinging”. In today’s moral mud-slinging climate, this brilliant statesman would not be allowed to hold a political office. The moral majority today would have hung him out to dry, just as they did Gary Hart! Today, people are only considered worthy of public office if they can almost be considered for sainthood! In many cases it’s just that they have been sneaky or secretive enough to keep their swinging natures from being known. (Adapted from “What Is The Swinging Lifestyle?” By Shirley Sez, S.&R. Productions)

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Definition (2)

 Swinging dates back at least as far as the days of early Rome and the well-known Roman orgies. Over the years it has taken many forms and names. In the 60’s it was wife-swapping, and seemed to be more controlled by men who opted to trade wives with other men. In the modern day it has taken the name of swinging, harkening back to another term from the 60’s, referring to those days of open-sexuality and freedom of enjoyment.

  In the current day, swinging seems to be a much more equal opportunity activity where both the males and females are pro-active in finding playmates, each equally enjoying their chosen activities. It is reported that wife-swapping was initiated by military husbands going off to WW1. Friends would arrange parties to wish each other well and the men left behind would promise that if anything happened to a soldier that they would take care of his wife’s needs (including sexually). Later, key parties were created where couples would arrive together and the husband would deposit his keys in a bowl. At the end of the night a woman would choose a set of keys and go home with the keys owner…. again, harkening to the term wife-swapping.

  Swing clubs began as house parties. Groups of swinging couples would meet at each other’s homes. Some bars and lounges began catering to swingers, and most swinging early on was in the larger metropolitan areas of California, Chicago and New York. By 1972 there were at least 18 on-premise house parties in Southern California. In 1973, The Lifestyles Organization held their first convention in Riverside California. Over the last 30 years the lifestyle has become more and more “out”, as it has continued to spread across the country and into even the most secluded areas. The advent of the swinger mag in the 70’s and 80’s helped swingers in finding other like-minded people. Prior to that you would mainly find other swingers through people that you knew. During this time more and more clubs were opening as well (both on-premise and now off-premise socials).

  In the 80’s, the advent of the internet helped the lifestyle grow through anonymity. BBS’s were popular and people met on these boards to discuss any sort of topic. This allowed swingers a new venue for meeting others. As the internet grew, knowledge of the lifestyle become almost common. People who had been practicing swinging for years finally found that there was a name for it and more and more people came “out of the closet” so to speak and found new friends. Younger couples were discovering this previously unknown territory and opening their minds to it. A lifestyle that was one primarily peopled by couples in their 40’s and 50’s was becoming an activity shared by younger couples as well.

  People who for the first time learn about the swinging lifestyle often assume that there has to be something wrong in a relationship within a couple for them to join in. Ironically, the truth is completely the opposite. This lifestyle is ONLY for couples that are happy, committed and secure in their relationships. So, what makes this lifestyle so special and why does a growing number of modern couples decide to join in? The fact is that there is nothing different about the people who participate in the lifestyle. What’s different is the way they go about exploring their fantasies and sexuality. Sex used to be something that only people who are deeply in love, and most of the time married, were supposed to share. One of the new realized realities of our society today is the fact that most people can now separate love and sex. Sex is becoming something more of a leisure, if you will, rather than an experience shared only with your soulmate. Does this mean that sex is no longer a physical expression of love? Of course – it still is! We still reserve “love making” only for the ones we love. However, the recreational sex is becoming something that can be detached from an actual relationship and enjoyed as an entirely separate activity.

  Another new reality of the modern society is the fact that many people do require sexual variety to live a fully enjoyable sex lives. It is not a secret that most modern marriages during its existence are challenge by adultery or end up in divorce. We’ve all heard the statistics. Does it mean we don’t love our partners or don’t want them as much sexually any more? Absolutely not! “Different” doesn’t mean “better”. For example, when one looks at someone of an opposite sex other than his or her partner – it is not in a search for something better. By looking at someone different, we find excitement in exploring their body shapes, moves, sexuality – it’s all very new, different and, therefore, exciting. Variety is what makes many people excited and the lust for it is here to stay.

  One of the other newly accepted parts of our sex lives are our fantasies. By definition, they are our sexual desires which many times do NOT include our partners ( or at least not JUST them ). Even well recognized sex therapists have concluded that sexual fantasies are healthy and are here to stay as a part of almost any relationship. So, what are the choices that modern couples face today if they are seeking some variety or spice in their sex lives? Well, there are several options. One is to suppress your feeling and keep going in denial. That is the approach that works on the surface. Everything looks great – you are a traditional “happy” couple who want to be with no one else, but each other. ( Oh, how sweet! ) But the fact of the matter is that you are lying not only to yourself, but also to your partner. By suppressing your feelings you are not getting rid of them, but many times you actually make them stronger. So, there goes the trust and communication that few relationships can survive without.

  The second choice is something that quite a few people choose to do as a way out – adultery. Even though in this case you do get to satisfy your desires, you once again end up with the absence of those two main ingredients of any strong relationship that we just talked about. The third choice is something that has only been recently discovered by the mainstream couples – swinging. It is a lifestyle that not only keeps the trust and communication between the two partners – it requires both of those qualities to participate. The swinging lifestyle is about sharing the sexual fantasies together with your partner (“together” being the keyword). This is the lifestyle that can only work for the committed couples that are secure in their relationships and have open and direct communication with each other.

  Another misunderstanding about the lifestyle is the myth that swingers are people who screw everyone they meet in the lifestyle and do it as often as they can. That can’t be further from the truth! As a matter of fact, most couples are not what’s called “hardcore swingers”. There are different types of swinging and a couple can select the one that caters to their sexuality the best. You can go only as far as social flirting, light touching with a friendly couple, or you can choose to get sexual with just your own partner while another couple is enjoying each other in the same room. It all depends on how you and your partner want your swinging experience to happen, and you should never go any further that the comfort level that you have set. There are several kinds of swinging that couples choose to participate in. There is a “traditional” couple to couple relationship, where two couples exchange partners for the sexual activities and sometimes participate in bi-sexual play as well. There are three-way relationships where a couple invites a single male or female to play along with them. Some couples prefer to only swap bi-sexual partners. There are several more types of swinging, and they all are about sharing desires together with your partner and growing from it within your own relationship. You don’t have to jump into the lifestyle by going all the way with the first people you meet. Many couples choose to take it slow while adjusting to the new lifestyle. Some start by looking at others and talking about what they find attractive. Watching adult movies together could be another way to share fantasies and desires before inviting others to join you. Using toys, role-playing, flirting are all ways to explore. It is OK to take your time and in many cases it takes a while from the moment a couple decides to explore to their first sexual encounter. Even though couples that join the lifestyle are looking to enhance their sex lives and overall relationships, it is also important to make sure not to damage what you already have.

  Each member of a couple must have a desire to satisfy both of their fantasies and not just their own. If one partner is looking to only satisfy his or her own desires dragging their partner along for the ride, it is a pretty good indication that there is something wrong in a relationship as is. In that case it is strongly recommended not to participate in the lifestyle at all. Your primary relationship with your partner is the most important thing and should be the number one priority throughout your experiences in the lifestyle. So, make sure to keep the communication gates open between you and your partner at all times and set your pace and rules upfront for the most enjoyable experiences. Happy swinging!